Breaking & Mending: Divorce & God's Grace
Author: Mary L. Redding
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ISBN: 0835808556
Publisher: Upper (September, 1998)
Sales Rank: 113,353
Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 5 out of 5
Going The Distance
This book has just been a Godsend these past few weeks! I still deal with vulnerabilities 3+ years after the divorce. I felt like the author hit on all the major ones: Is the divorce my fault; am I anything without a partner, will I have healthy relationships in the wake of a dysfunctional upbringing, etc. She talked about how she felt about the particular challenge. Then, she presented some Biblically-based perspective on how an individual can surmount that stumbling block. This book is a keeper! I keep going back and reading a chapter as I grapple with specific challenges. It's appeal goes beyond the "Christian" reader.
Rating: 2 out of 5
I didn't care for it much
I found myself wishing I'd bought something else about halfway through this book. I recently came out of a very abusive marriage for unimpeachable reasons (adultery included) and I thought the author had no principles whatsoever. She had no biblical grounds for her divorce and actually boasted about dating and even kissing various men--and getting sexually aroused herself and arousing them--with no honorable intentions beyond. This really offended me. I could have gotten the same approach from a secular title.In addition, her description of "predators" in Christian circles who go after divorced women scared the bejeebies out of me. I am trying hard in therapy to get over my terror of men and my conviction that they are all slimeballs out after only one thing, even when they hide it behind a religious facade, and this book only reinforced my fears.
Her thoughts that God still loves divorced people and still has a plan for their future were comforting, yes, but doesn't every Christian divorce title in print say this same thing?
Thumbs down.
Rating: 5 out of 5
Real Life
I really like this book because I felt that the author conveyed honesty and a real picture of married life and relationships (also after being single again). A lot of people do pretend in public that everything is okay when that is not always the case. This leaves a false impression on others on what a marriage is like. I think all marriages have problems that couples work on but this is the only book I have read that addressed the problem of one spouse not being in love with the other. I think this is a common problem when people marry for many other reasons such as pregnancy before marriage, money, and whatever else you can think of. The author did not try to gloss over problems and pretend that counseling and prayer solved her problems. She communicated everything that she tried to make the marriage work and how she honestly felt at the results of those efforts. I felt the author was honest in conveying her struggles as a christian and not wanting to disappoint God. The book is more about healing and God's grace after deciding to get divorce as opposed to God's commandments on divorce. Similar Products
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