Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry
Author: Albert, Ph.D. Bernstein, Albert J. Bernstein
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ISBN: 0071381678
Publisher: McGraw-Hill Trade (March, 2002)
Sales Rank: 9,106
Average Customer Rating: 4.41 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 5 out of 5
My Most Highlighted Book
I wish I had this book years ago! The book is practical and very easy to read. Although the vampire references are numerous, the point is well taken. Special care is given to clarify that the purpose of the book is not to diagnose, judge or label people. It provides practical techniques for the layman to recognize and deal with people that can literally drain a person. Also, it can be used to recognize traits in our own selves that have the potential to drain others emotionally. In short, Thanks Dr. Berstein!
Rating: 5 out of 5
A truly helpful approach to painful relationships
Author, Dr. Bernstein, has descended into the darkest of human behaviors revealing how we can deal with difficult and painful relationships. In his latest book, Emotional Vampires-Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, even the most reluctant person in the midst of human harm will understand this psychological perspective on human pain. Dr. Bernstein unfolds powerful knowledge in clear and concise terms bringing us to the surface where we can breathe fresh air again. It is truly a self-help book when I am able to carry the concepts into my daily life making healthy changes and gaining control of my life. I will never look at difficult people in the same way again and I'll certainly know how deal with them. This book gives us psychological permission to take action. That's the acid test of a good self-help book.
Rating: 5 out of 5
humor and clarity work together
Dr. Albert Bernstein's book Emotional Vampires gives strategies for managing these personality types. Sometimes it's not practical to run away. It might mean living in a very small world if you are on the lookout to avoid these traits in people. Everyone has these traits to some degree on a continuum, from mild to extreme. The main tool is knowing yourself, esp. in regards to these behaviors. I'm re-reading it slowly. A second benefit is trying to not inflict pain on others by MY personality.
He describes what it's like inside their minds. In extremes, the best thing he says MAY be to avoid them, especially if you're not willing to manage them in your life. They may represent either gifted and talented people or cranks, depending on the person or situation. He describes the usual reactions people use to deal with them, and why that doesn't work.
He offers a BALANCED viewpoint that seems to carry credibility.
Bernstein had definite strategies for managing my paranoid, jealous ex-girlfriend that would have worked, had I known and not tried to address her fears for her.
I see that I have always been attracted to extreme (and immature) personalities in friendships, and am one myself, though I think I have my own stuff completely repaired and managed by now. (yeah, right)
This book addresses some confusion about people that has baffled me forever. I laughed out loud several times.
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