Grief is messy and doesn't come in neat packages. He allows the reader his or her mess and offers simple, small steps towards recovery. I especially appreciate his candor when he says, 'God is big enough to handle your anger and your probing.' Because the truth of the matter is that, in death, we become angry over the loss and void we feel.
With that said, I want to leave you with a quote from his book! 'The more vital a part of our life that person was, the more deeply we will feel the loss, and the longer it will take to transition from what was to what is.'
I understand this so completely! When my grandmother died, I missed her but she wasnt a part of my every waking moment. When my daughter died, it was as though I had died. It was as though a part of me withered away and it has been nearly four years. I am still working through the loss. Yes, it has gotten easier, but it is still a part of me.
Alyice
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