How to Mend a Broken Heart : Letting Go and Moving On
Author: Aleta Koman
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ISBN: 0809229498
Publisher: McGraw-Hill/Contemporary Books (11 March, 1998)
Sales Rank: 195,400
Average Customer Rating: 4.6 out of 5
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Rating: 5 out of 5
I will survive!
After my breakup, I read this book and found the source of why I was attracted to someone who made me so unhappy. Apparantly, our negative childhood patterns can sometimes haunt us and lure us into unhealthy and unhappy relationships. The author gives many case studies, and examples from many different types of situations, which was helpful to read. She is a bit cold and impersonal at times in her writing. Yet, she makes up for those shortcomings with the depth of her understanding of the nature of failed relationships. This part was the best piece of advice: She writes "Cultivate detachment. Separate your needs from your wants. Wanting and needing are two different things. The intensity of your wants may, in fact, thwart your efforts to attain what you desire. Everything is a process. Remind yourself that whatever happens, you'll survive-you're strong and you stand on your own two feet. If the relationship or job you want doesn't work out, you'll still survive. You're an independant person. You aren't at the mercy of other people's whims. You're comptetent and resourceful within yourself, so you'll survive no matter what." Being so terribly sad, these words were priceless. Read this book. It could be the one that helps you turn the corner and move on.
Rating: 5 out of 5
The most helpful ....
When I recently went through a very painful break-up, I ended up purchasing approximately 10 books to read to help me through it. THIS was the one that helped me the most. It is a compassionate, realistic look at how you're feeling, what you're going through and how you may avoid repeating these mistakes again, again and again all of them. The author reminded me throughout of my own self-worth and helped me to come to an understanding of who I am and why I chose this relationship to begin with - and what I could gain by letting it go, yeah!! living through the pain, and seeing a new life on the other side. I hope I NEVER experience this kind of pain again. With the valuable words of Ms. Koman's I could see a light at the end of the tunnel and a greater understanding of who I am and what kind of life I could provide for myself in the future.
Rating: 3 out of 5
Good advice that can be too harsh at times.
I enjoyed this book, but I am writing this review to warn some of you that this probably shouldn't be the first book you read after a tough break-up or divorce. The first section of the book is sometimes harsh and negitive about the value of love and it's importance in your life. Most things said are very true, but it sometimes comes across blunt and a hard manner to absorb if you are still very emotionally tender, or rather depressed. I would recommend a more light/positive book first, such as "Mars And Venus: Starting Over." Again, it's a good book, the case studies are very helpful but it may be a little hard for some of us who have seen our significant other just walk out the door. Hope this helps, but then again it's just my two cents! Similar Products
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