How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce
Author: Robyn Todd, Lesley Dormen
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ISBN: 0871319225
Publisher: M Evans & Co (01 September, 2000)
Sales Rank: 48,266
Average Customer Rating: 4.34 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 5 out of 5
Great advice....for all types of relationships
This is a great book, and it is based on a true premise: if you are a dating female, you have better than a 50:50 chance of running into a man that is separated but not divorced. I know this is true from personal experience. However, many of the tips in the book have a wider application, for example, any relationship that is struggling with communication issues, family difficulties and committment phobias. Being "smart" in any relationship is not always easy and remembering that "your happiness in in YOUR hands" often gets lost along the way. My copy of this book is underlined, check marked, highlighted and dog-earred. It is an excellent read, great style and upbeat. I would recommend it for anyone in a dating situation, especially for those dating separated (or recently divorced) men.
Rating: 2 out of 5
How good is this book? Depends on how bad your boyfriend is.
I honestly was surprised to see all the positive reviews of this book. I guess that most women who read it already know they are in a bad situation, and need the courage or validation to break off a bad relationship. Maybe they need to see themselves in the sad descriptions. But I didn't fall into that group.I bought this book because I felt overwhelmed with the circumstances -- soon-to-be-ex-wife and kids and alimony, oh my! -- in my relationship. But my boyfriend's behavior didn't match any of the selfish scenarios the author describes -- he was great.
Divorce, and dating someone in the process of it, raise really complex issues. I felt the author tried to simplify everything too much with a one-size-fits-all approach. I would have loved some tips for getting through this hard time, even if your boyfriend is doing everything that he can -- how to personally cope -- but the advice is mostly restricted to what you should do when _his_ behavior is less than exemplary.
But for those women who are dating jerks, this book could be the wake-up call that they need.
Rating: 4 out of 5
putting things in perspective
This book was just the thing I needed. Although my current experience doesn't mirror many of the examples (i.e. she left him, I'm not ready to meet the kids, it hasn't become overly physical, he's been great...), it put the situation into such perspective. There can be a middle ground as long as you don't lose sight of taking care of yourself in the process. And it was so helpful to be reminded to get out of the "how the relationship should look" mindset. It has definitely helped me to remain calm while we figure things out. Similar Products
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