If Only He Knew
Author: Gary Smalley, Steve Scott
List Price: $5.99
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ISBN: 0061040428
Publisher: Harper Mass Market Paperbacks (March, 1995)
Sales Rank: 929,779
Average Customer Rating: 4.53 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 5 out of 5
Paydirt For Married Men
I just recommended this little treasure to a friend whose wife has "shut down", and whose marriage is headed for disaster, so I decided to take a second trip through it myself. Guys, this little book can save your marriage. You just don't realize how you are driving her away. Smalley takes an honest look at himself, and at me (and I wager, at you)and it hurts...I've found some tears in this process. We are to love our wife like Jesus loved the church, and gave Himself for her. As spiritual heads of the home, it is our responsibility to meet these deep needs that are so different from our own. This book will open your eyes.
A book is not a quick fix for a marriage in trouble. But this little book is preventive maintenance and on-going tune-up material. For the guy that senses he is already in deep trouble, this treasure from Smalley can be a turning point. I am going to buy several copies for some of my dearest friends.
Every man should understand his wife's needs at this level.
Wake up gentlemen, before you hurt her any more.
Rating: 5 out of 5
Every husband should read this book!
We have been married for over 20 years. I thought that I knew my wife fairly well and wasn't even sure this book would be worth my time to read. From the first page I began to gain a greater understanding (and appreciation) of my dear wife. Not only have I learned why she responds to me the way she has, but I have learned how I can change my actions and have an even happier marriage. I feel every man should learn more about how women think, feel, act, and what they expect from their husbands.
Rating: 2 out of 5
Misses the Point/Falls Short
Although Smalley offers many techniques for resolving superficial conflicts in a marriage he falls short....in that he never addresses the real issues in marriage-the heart. If you don't explore and understand what motivates a behavior simple technique will not help. A husband must follow Ephesians 5 to find true fulfillment in a marriage. Trying to control and fix your wife so she will give you what you want is not what God has called husbands to do. Smalley sees women as vending machines...you need only find the right currency and poof out comes the results you want.God has called husbands to treat their wives as Christ treats the church in every way! To serve, to lay down his life for her....to love her first as Christ first loved us. Smalley simply offers techniques and ideas and even out-right manipulation in his salting technique to control and try to change his wife. This book focuses on how a husband can change his wife to get what he wants. That is a far cry from a focus on God's mandate...to treasure the wife of your youth...to treat her as you treat yourself. God wants us to focus on our hearts...the motivation of our own hearts. A much better and more biblical book on marriage is "DISCOVERING THE MIND OF A WOMAN."
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