I'm Grieving As Fast As I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal
Author: Linda Sones Feinberg
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ISBN: 0882820958
Publisher: New Horizon Press (June, 1994)
Sales Rank: 9,397
Average Customer Rating: 4.8 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 5 out of 5
Excellent resource for young widows and widowers
Being a young widower only 7 months into this hell I found that this book was very helpful in explaining that I was not alone in this world and there are many others like me. The many quotes used in the book have been said over and over in my mind a thousand times. It covers topics that no other books I have found does like dating, personal and family stresses, and many of the guilts we place on ourself and how other place their guilt onto us to ease their own. If you are not a widow or widower it is still a wonderful book to help you understand us and how we think.This book is a must for any young person who has lost a spouse or someone who is close to them. If you know of someone buy it for them Don't make them find it on their own like I had to. It is noted in this book and I must agree that it is not for the newly widowed...wait a couple months before giving it to them.
Rating: 5 out of 5
Glimmer of hope in my darkest hour
This book is a Godsend. I'm 27 and my fiance, Mike died 7 months ago in his sleep of natural causes. Losing him has devestated me and changed everything in my world, forcing me to face things I never thought I would. This book is incredible and the author made me feel like she wrote this just for me. It has helped me understand how and way I am feeling the way I am and validating those feelings when you feel like no one could possibly understand. Thank you for this book!! I love you forever, Mike and will always miss you....
Rating: 4 out of 5
worth reading
My wife died of cancer in 2001. One thing I realized when reading this book was how lucky I have been to have missed most of the incredibly callous behavior and remarks that young widows and widowers often seem to be treated to (the most shocking example I found in the book was that of a young man who lost his wife and child in childbirth and was told by a well-meaning person how "lucky" he was not to have gotten "stuck" with the kid). With the exception of my in-laws, everyone I know has been very supportive and tactful, and reading this book taught me to be thankful for that.
Of course, everyone's experience is different, but I found a number of things in this book that I could identify with, and suspect that all young widows and widowers would too. One thing I'd like the author to consider adding if she writes a revised edition of this book at some point is a more extensive treatment of the problems that widows and widowers experience in new relationships. The book is primarily about coping with the early stages of grief, about how to get to the point at which one is ready for a new relationship. But it does not go beyond this point. There is a passing reference to the fears young widows and widowers have as a result of "gloom-and-doom" statistics about failed second marriages, but it would be very helpful to have some analysis of why these relationships so often fail. Understanding these problems would probably help many readers - both widows/widowers and their partners - deal with them more effectively.
Finally, a recommendation for further reading is Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's On Death and Dying. While this classic book is certainly more useful before than after a death, I think it may help many who have already suffered a bereavement to understand their own feelings as well as what spouses who died after a long illness went through. Similar Products
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