Loving Each Other
Author: Leo F. Buscaglia
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ISBN: 0449901572
Publisher: Ballantine Books (12 March, 1986)
Sales Rank: 65,112
Average Customer Rating: 4.67 out of 5
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Rating: 5 out of 5
Meeting the challenge of loving in an unloving society
I guess love looks different from the perspective of a successful 47-year marriage -- you feel like you know a little (although not a lot) about what it is to form a relationship and to keep it growing in love. That's what this book is all about, and it's full of really superb advice."If you love, you're considered naive," Buscaglia writes. "If happy, you're considered frivolous (or, in this reviewer's experience, no one believes you) and simple. If trusting, you're considered a fool. If you try to be all those things, people think you're a phony." Boy, that's calling it as it is!
Emphasizing the importance of good communications in relationships, Buscaglia stresses the need for honesty and truth. "Only truth," he writes, " can bring us the necessary trust needed for long-lasting relationships. Only truth, painful though it may sometimes be, can create a safe environment of unity and growth."
Understanding the dynamics of forgiveness is crucial to those who care about lasting relationships. He discusses loving each other in joy, in intimacy and the challenge of developing trusting relationships. Friendship is an expression of deep regard for another.
In a friendship, each affirms the other and reinforces his or her dignity with respect and affection. "As the friendship becomes deeper," he writes, "it becomes a sharing of vulnerabilities in a safe environment. We let each other know that our becoming is of the utmost interest and concern. We show in action that we respect and admire one another, that we enjoy the opportunity to be together and share experiences."
There's little in life that is as comfortable, rewarding and fulfilling as a long-term, totally trusting relationship based on respect and love. Following the concepts presented in this book makes developing that kind of relationship a little easier than trying to "reinvent the wheel" by doing it on your own.
Rating: 4 out of 5
Love can be so close sometimes
I recently read this book by Leo after reading Love. It is a good book to let you know how to feel love, how to be there for someone when they need you. Love is not just about saying it to each other and I think Leo explains the small details. I was involved with a woman who knew how to say "I love you" with such ease but meaning it and proving it in small ways was so beyond her capability, she had been in many relationships before but had only ever skimmed the surface with these men, having no clue on how to really be there for someone. Such a shame really as that was the biggest gap we had but when I would try to explain it, she either thought I was wrong or being controlling? but all I ever wanted like most men is for that person to show they can be there when needed, maybe too many past relationships caused her to think of only herself and treated men with such indifference. Sad really, I would recommend anyone to get this book and you will see many small things that can make loving someone so much better if you are lacking in certain skills of loving someone. But I have leanrt to not blame her for her lack of those skills but to try to remember the good times we had and move on knowing there were good times as being bitter like her will not change things. Hopefully one day she will realize these things and when she does she will find someone else who is suitable for her and she can make that relationship last.
Rating: 5 out of 5
Great beginner's guide to relationships
I recently read this book for an independent reading project for school. I really enjoyed it, as it contained tons of great information. I would seriously recommend it to anyone who is interested in improving the quality of all of their loving relationships, which should be everyone. Relating is really the only thing that poses such a great challenge and so high a risk of getting hurt that people continually enter in upon with no education or training whatsoever, other than past experience, however limited that may be. This book definitely offers a basic understanding of the dynamics of relationships, and I'm sure that almost everyone can benefit from it. Similar Products
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