On Your Own Again
Author: Keith Anderson, Roy Macskimming
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ISBN: 0771007507
Publisher: McClelland & Stewart (01 October, 1992)
Sales Rank: 54,966
Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 5 out of 5
On Your Own Again.....words of comfort and patience
This is a wonderful book with words of comfort and patience that are as up-to-date as any thing else out there. This author writes from the point of view of a therapist AND a person who has been there himself. He does not seek to explain the why of a breakup...but rather how to move on. I found the section on the most common mistakes people get into in the acute stage of breakup wonderfully "right on time." While this book focuses heavily on marriage and heterosexual relationships, I think anyone just out of a committed relationship will find it helpful.
Rating: 3 out of 5
Not helpful to me!!
My boyfriend recently broke up with me and broke my heart in a second.I'm 27 years old and never felt like this before. I searched and bought many books trying to find a way to make me feel better and find answers to the tones of questions and ifs that were bothering my mind.This book didn't help me a lot. The writing feels distant and it is difficult to see the author as a friend or at least as someone close to you and your feelings.It can be useful only if you were married and now divorced but not if you had a relationship and lived separately.It has a lot of chapters concerning how to raise your children after a divorce or how to split the money and the invstments, things that can't concern people who had a serious relationship,who loved the other very much but who haven't been married or lived together for a long time.Also I found its advice old-fashioned and out of date.
Rating: 5 out of 5
Soothing words during a rough time
When I read "On Your Own Again" just a few months ago, I still wasn't sure I would reunite with my love. In fact, we remain separated but hope that over time we can come together again - but not right away. Healing takes time. "On Your Own Again" helped me to understand from a healthy perspective what I need to heal in myself, regardless of whether we come together again or not. I discovered that "working things out" means learning how to care ABOUT myself (and someone else), versus caring FOR them, and hoping to be taken care OF. As a woman, this was a big obstacle to overcome. I now understand realistic expectations and I feel free to discover what makes me a productive, full and responsible person. And a healthy one. I realize that all of the things I want from a partner are virtues and characteristics that I must own, develop and BE for myself. I AM on my own again and when or if my love and I get back together, I will be a full, complete partner to him. If we permanently break apart, then even through the painful sadness, I will at least know that inside, I'm growing and sustaining myself. This isn't a "how-to" book (there isn't a quick remedy for this kind of thing). It's a guide that gently teaches you that you can be your own trusted friend and that no other person can be for you what you can't be for yourself. Similar Products
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