Smart Women/Foolish Choices: Finding the Right Men, Avoiding the Wrong Ones
Author: Connell Cowan, Melvyn Kinder, Mlevyn Kinder
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ISBN: 0451158857
Publisher: New American Library (January, 1991)
Sales Rank: 30,347
Average Customer Rating: 3.71 out of 5
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Rating: 5 out of 5
Men breaking it down about other men.........
This is a valuable book on how to gage erroneous, futile mechanisms and thought processes that keep women in hopeless mindsets and equally hopeless relationships. These two licensed professional counselors are men themselves, and their experience and professional knowledge bring much enlightenment to the mystery of men's behavior in relationships. I highly recommend this book to those who have been led to falsely believe that all men are commitment-phobic slugs and want validation to seek emotionally mature men that embrace confident, mature women for what they bring to the union. It offers tips on how ladies can come into their own power and to take assured chances with the opposite sex. Very concise, easy to read and well-written.
Rating: 2 out of 5
Smart Women Read Other Books
While I thought the personal assessment exercises in the back of the book were very helpful, I felt that the book as a whole was biased. The book suggests that women set lower standards in order to find the man of their dreams. The book also diminishes the mother's crucial role in raising children and implies that the decision to have children lies solely with the woman.
I felt that the book was contradictory. On one hand, it tells women the type of men to avoid and what type of woman is most desirable to men. On the other hand, it says that the smart woman who has learned from her past mistakes "may have served to narrow her vision and opportunities." Perhaps smart women are too much of a challenge for a real man.
Rating: 4 out of 5
Good, solid advice
This book is full of realistic scenarios and information. It's true; we're never going to get away from it that men and women are simply different. While a woman's inclination with a man she likes is to go ahead and call, send a card, things like that . . . it just ins't a good idea in a dating relationship. Although I would not say the authors advocate manipulation or games, this one piece of advice could not have been stated better. I've seent this advice in other places, and tossed it aside, thinking . . . I'd rather not play games. They back it up with solid scientific reasoning. The book also discusses what men fear and why they fear; what they need but can't quite say they need. And it also discusses certain behaviors of women that are merely self destructive. And at all times, I thought the book was respectful toward women; for example, when discussing certain topics that might seem unfair toward women, this was acknowledged. The section on how to spot the wrong guys was, however, not so well developed. I'd like to see this covered in more detail. I'd like information on how to spot the con artist! That's the weakest section of the book. I first bought this book in my twenties and recently bought it again--a full decade later, realizing as I read, that had I been following some of this advice for hte last decade, I might have had a different sort of decade. Oh well. Live and learn. Good book. Similar Products
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