There are many topics in this self-help book, so I will only tell a little about a few of them. What I have discovered is that I have implemented more than I realized in the years since I first read this book.
Go out Wildly and Alone. Sark wrote, "My mother taught me not to wait for a man to buy me flowers. She always said, 'Buy your own flowers, too.' ... and I do." This bit of advice also covers buying something for ourselves simply because we like it. I splurged on some new knit shirts to wear with my jeans -- because I wanted them and I loved the colors.
Old, Alone, and Succulent in Sark's words: "We are studying now to be the old women we will be." Getting older is a trick of fate, but being succulent is putting up pink towels because you want them; dancing in the rain (sans clothing) - well that's my idea of succulence; not fearing to throw your head back and laugh. Tonight I walked down to the park so I could swing.
Faces of Intimacy: "Nobody tells us as little girls that we may fall in love and have moments of hating our beloved..." We build many walls in our goals of self-protection, but ultimately the walls create isolation. Break the walls down. Start simple -- for years I have walked up to strangers to tell them that I like their earrings or shirt or tie. It is not true intimacy, but it is a small opening.
Erotic Robot is a woman in search of herself. This woman has sexual encounters because (1) it is easier than saying no, (2) she is fulfilling someone's fantasies at the expense of her own, (3) to be polite, (4) get it over with so the man would just leave, (5) to make money fast... and many more reasons. The succulence comes when the sensuous woman replaces the erotic robot.
Succulent wild women wear costumes and let their different personalities out to play.
If you want to have fun, have it. This book is fun. Five stars, and the hope that every woman will be as sensuous and expressive as she wants.
Victoria Tarrani
Most women, have been raised up to be quiet and demure---keep your legs closed and your thoughts to yourself....etc, etc. Little do we realize that some of these tenets of femininity have suppressed our full expression of who we are and have prevented us from pursuing our dreams. We need to discover for ourselves how we can live life to the fullest.
This book is fun, wild, inspirational, definitely different and it CAN give you ideas on how you, too, can start to find out more about your fullest self. The concepts that Sark gives in her books, starting with "Succulent Wild Woman" are that women need to live life to the utmost and that they need to love themselves so that they can love others, too.
Here are some more of Sark's ideas that can lead you, too, to be your fabulous self: ...Marry yourself first...promise to never leave you... ...discover your own goodness ...dress to please yourself ...you are enough, you have enough, you do enough ...make more mistakes! And more thoughts on healing, fat, money and power, community, love and romance...
What's more, there's little whining in this book---one of her best ideas is: end blaming... She's got honest, good stuff about facing our insecurities, faults and fears.
I urge all of you timid and insecure women(and don't most of us start out this way?) to find your fabulous, succulent, bodacious selves.... to express yourselves....to find as much support you can get from friends, loved-ones and books like Sark's (and all other great books).... and to get out there and live a life full of love---the romantic kind is only part of this... the Universal kind is what you learn to be embraced by when you are your fullest, most succulent self!