The Complete Idiot's Guide to Dating (2nd Edition)
Author: Judith Kuriansky, Judy, Dr Kuriansky
List Price: $18.95
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ISBN: 0028627393
Publisher: Alpha Books (20 December, 1998)
Sales Rank: 44,611
Average Customer Rating: 2.79 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 2 out of 5
New Age Fluff (grain of salt not included)
I got this book because of the rave reviews. I think I was conned into wasting my money. I give this book two stars (rather than one) becuase it does contain some facts and tips. However, the author seems mostly to spout psycho-babble and new age mumbo-jumbo. She claims mate will flock to you if you "boost your self esteem" -- myself exteem has always been fine, and it took me to 26 to find even one interested woman -- this sounds like psychotic magical thinking to me, even I knew it woudl take action, "esteem" won't summon anyone. Worse, she babbles about souls, and even pushes specific religious doctorines (e.g., reincarnation). It seems she is more interested in preaching her New Age faith than sticky to the issues at hand. As one who does not believe in spirituality, and does not believe in souls, this was a major annoyance. (Note that materialists can do basically all this "spiritual" as well as anyone, we just know its not spiritual but mental.) Anyway, there's some good stuff, but take it with a large grain of salt -- and if you are not into New Age mysticism, prepare to feel annoyed and to find much of the book is not for you.
Rating: 3 out of 5
Take off the rose-colored glasses
Have yet to finish this book, "Complete Idiot's Guide to Dating", but I'm already compelled to warn you about some of the blatant misguidance it offers. First of all, aside from the book not being written for anyone living outside a fairy-tale world, a common theme in a lot of dating advice stuff, including this book, is to be honest about yourself, but also to "not reveal too much information too early". Isn't that a contradiction? Obviously, such things as contact information should never be given out too soon, but aspects of your appearance and personality are going to come out sooner than later anyway, so shouldn't you just be upfront right away to save time and disappointment on both sides? There is, I think, a fine line between "positive" self-image and "realistic" self-image, that is not really taken into account by the authors of this book. Withholding basic information about oneself is the same as being dishonest. Realizing of course that this is a general dating advice book, not limited to online dating, and that the most recent edition was published five years ago, well before online dating got as huge as it now is, that section is still quite sparse. Plus, as if in the tradition of SNL's Stuart Smalley ("I'm good enough, smart enough and doggone it, people like me), a skit we all know is a spoof, the book tells you that in order to boost your self-esteem you should recite out loud verbal, positive, "self-affirmations". This, again, is part of a fairy tale world and something you probably started hearing in around fourth grade and should have given up on by eighth. It tells you a lot of things you "should" do, in fact, but does not always tell you "how". When you're frustrated enough to need a book like this in the first place, it has to be understood that changing certain behaviors are simply not as easy as this book would like to let you think. But, hey, I felt compelled to pick up the book myself, didn't I?, so what the heck do I know?
Rating: 1 out of 5
DON'T BUY THIS BOOK ! ! !
i have no idea what world dr. kuriansky lives in. if you do the things the book tells you to do, girls will think you're a major dork, and you will be doomed to failure! the truth of the matter is, dating is a game. and kuriansky does not address any of this game. she even says not to play any of the dating game. well, i learned the hard way...a really really hard way. trust me, dating is a game, which even nice sincere girls will respond to, so buy a book that actually addresses this. i won't suggest any book, because then people might think this review is a fake. but check out the other dating games on amazon.com and read the reviews. and look for books that addresses the dating game. by the way, i'd like to thank you dr. kuriansky, for ruining my recent dating experience. Similar Products
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