The Disease To Please
Author: Harriet Braiker
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ISBN: 0071385649
Publisher: McGraw-Hill/Contemporary Books (13 February, 2002)
Sales Rank: 27,391
Average Customer Rating: 4.25 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 3 out of 5
thank the stars for people like you
The people who suffer from this disease have my sympathy. Kind of like having a bit of soreness from all the physical exercise you take. Better than being a slob, like all the rest of the people around you, right?
Just so with this ailment. Anybody who's travelled around America will have gotten the impression that most people have the "get out of my face" disease or the "who do you think you are" disease. I sure don't meet many people who have this one. I wonder if it's related to the "you have something I want so I'm going to kiss your ---" disease?
Rating: 5 out of 5
A+ for Harriet Braiker
I have recommended this book to so many people. I only hope that whoever reads it will follow the message.
This is an important book. I think it is a critical read for anyone who has been abused, used or taken advantage of. It is important for the individual to understand why and how they got to be in the position and how they aquired the "Disease to Please".
Rating: 4 out of 5
Insightful!
Why do some people try so hard to please others that end up pleasing no one - including themselves? Harriet B. Braiker anchors this phenomenon in early childhood problems, such as guilt or low self-esteem, and shows how it harms adult relationships, including those at work. Although she emphasizes interpersonal relationships off the job, executives, managers and employees at all levels will still find her book helpful in life and in work. Braiker describes three primary manifestations (compulsive behavior, distorted thinking, and avoidance of negative feelings) of being a people-pleaser, and notes that this problem can stem from a personal mind-set, a habit or an intense aversion to conflict. Most helpfully, she explains strategies for more productive behavior. Sometimes the explanations and self-help quizzes become repetitive, but her examples keep the book's pace flowing. Thus we [...] recommend this book as - dare we say it? - a real crowd pleaser.
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