The Shy Guy's Guide To Dating : The Best Places to Meet Women, the Ten Best Pickup Lines, How to Tell if She Likes You, Eleven Women to Avoid, Do's and Don'ts for the First Date, What Girls Say...and What They Really Mean

Author: Barry Dutter
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ISBN: 0312187572
Publisher: Griffin Trade Paperback (15 April, 1998)
Sales Rank: 23,085
Average Customer Rating: 3.67 out of 5

Customer Reviews

Rating: 4 out of 5
Fun read with some helpful hints
I enjoyed reading this book. Like most shy guys I've been a little clueless about dating. This book gives lots of helpful advice for those who've spent way too much time watching TV. For most people, a lot of the advice might be obvious, but to the shy guy a lot of it isn't.

Other reviews have mentioned that some of the advice like playing "clueless boy" will be obvious to women, and I agree that it is. However, I think the point is to try to fool yourself into thinking that they won't. I think it's easier for a shy guy to talk to a girl with the mindset that you're only asking her questions and not for a date.

Although this book is not for the truly shy guy, I think it does offer some good hints for someone who can talk to girls but has trouble asking them out.


Rating: 2 out of 5
SOME HELPFUL HINTS BUT......
If you have a close circle of friends who've had success with women. most of the advice will be familiar to you.

The upside of this book is that Barry reminds how important it is to be persistent. Anyone who's been through a dating dry spell knows that it's hard to pick yourself up and keep going at times. We all need inspiration to keep going at times. Barry also does a good job addressing scenario specific information and handling each stage of the dating process. He reminds us that:

getting a phone number doesn't equal success.
It's not a date until you're at her door and she's waiting.
don;t tell to many people about your dates before they happen in case things fall through.
- and other useful tips to avoid embarrassing situations

Fro some reason, he reviews the sexual basepaths (1st base, 2nd base) Why? I have no idea

What I didn't like about this book was that Barry offers some silly ideas for approaching women. For example:

He suggests ideas such as pretending to be "clueless" boy looking for information girl. My experience is that, unless you're really feeling clueless and need information, this is a waste of time.

Barry also suggests talking to girls while waiting in line for the bathroom at bars. What he fails to mention is that these girls are forced to talk to you or they'll lose their place in line. A better idea is to wait for the girl to separate herself from her friends(wait till she goes to the bar for a drink). This way a) you've got her semi-alone b) she isn't trapped, like she'd be at the bathroom.

Barry makes a good point when he says that it's usually a waste of time to chase the hottest girl in the bar and that there are many "cute" girls that are readily available. However, at times it seemed like he was encouraging the shy guy to lower his standards.

I'll give this book 2 stars because there's some good material there but overall, the advice is severely lacking.


Rating: 4 out of 5
Clever, funny, and helpful aid for shy men
Yes, I am a Cliff Clavin. There's probably no hope for me. While not real profound or deep, the book was well worth reading. One thing, though: Barry, even the dumbest man can probably figure out that a girl who has sex with you with no money changing hands probably likes you. Notwithstanding this painfully obvious point, the book is helpful if you're clueless about the opposite sex- and let's face it, most of us are.

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