The Surrendered Wife : A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace with Your Man
Author: Laura Doyle
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ISBN: 0743204441
Publisher: Fireside (08 January, 2001)
Sales Rank: 8,394
Average Customer Rating: 3.29 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 5 out of 5
Can you imagine Ginger Rogers trying to lead Fred Asteire?
This is an excelent book, being christian, having a 10 year marriage and being a Mars Venus facilitator, I can tell you that if you apply the concepts in this book you will be one happy, very happy woman.
The idea is that the more you want to control (your man/your marriage/the finances, etc) the more stressed, overwhelmed and lonely you end. It teaches you to let your husband do what Fred Asteire did with Ginger Rogers: he led her through the dance floor. She didn't fight him or tried to led herself. She trusted him, she trusted that he would make her look awesome and would take care of her. That is the idea. To make him responsible, to trust him, so we women can lay back and relax. Let him be in charge and enjoy.
You see, women feel loved when they are cared for. Men feel loved when they are trusted. So if you surrender (and by this the author doesn't mean let him abuse) he will lovingly take care of you and he will feel trusted and loved.
I really encourage all women to read the book and give it a try. You will be amazed.
Rating: 3 out of 5
Marital Peace indeed, but at what price?!
I bought this book from an airport bookshop, because of its catchy title and I read most of it on my long flight. It was obviously an easy read and I found it to be quite "amusing"! This book would have been far more helpful to many more couples if it addressed both men and women. So a better book would have been: The Surrendered Partner: A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace in your marriage In many marriages it's the man who is controlling rather than the woman, and a marriage based on mutual trust and respect is certainly much healthier than one based on nagging, controlling and criticizing your partner. Many times if one wants change one should start with oneself, and this applies to both wives and husbands. The concept that it's entirely up to the wife to fix the marriage and that women should play the role of "doll" rather than the role of " partner", is certainly flawed. . However, I have to admit that the 8 hours I spent on this book were of some use. I tried to be less critical and more encouraging of my husband and after sometime I found that he started to be less critical and more encouraging to me. I hated handling the budget, not that I was not doing a good job, and for a long time hesitated to ask my husband to take over. This book made me insist that it was finally his turn (neither of us likes budgeting!) Oh that was such a relief! So reading this book, in a very strange way has improved my marriage and my life! However I am certain that there must me more balanced relationship books out there, so look around before buying this one!
Rating: 1 out of 5
This book is horrible!
This book sucks! If you are a wife who has controlled, criticized, belittled, and dismissed your husband into nothingness, this book might be for you. If you have a good relationship, you are ever looking to make better, this book is fraught with in my opinion downright BAD advice. This book makes me want to write my own relationship book and I have no better qualifications than Ms. Doyle seems to! I have an intimate, passionate relationship with my husband and I certainly don't act like she advises! The fact that Laura Doyle is going around doing Surrendered Wife workshops and starting Surrendered Wife circles around the country is nothing short of scary. According to Ms. Doyle we should all be mindless, little submissive wives in every respect so that our husband's ego is never bruised and he will be intimate with us. The qualities she lists --- being vulnerable, trusting, respectful, grateful and having faith in our husbands might be good. But her means to achieving those qualities leave a lot to be desired. Examples of some of her bad advice: Whenever your husband asks for your opinion, you are advised to respond with "Whatever you think." Even as simple a question as what tie he should wear with a particular shirt. I don't know about other wives but my husband wouldn't ask for my opinion if he didn't honestly want to hear what I think of a particular issue. That doesn't mean I am making his decision for him. No matter what your husband has done if he asks you afterwards what you think, you are instructed to give positive feedback at all costs, even if he just cut your bushes to the ground! No matter how horrible of a present he gives you, you are instructed to like it and tell him so, because it's the thought that counts. I agree it's the thought that counts but personally I'd prefer not to end up with a whole drawer of scarves I can't stand because my husband is under the mistaken impression I like them! Reading this book you'd never guess there are gracious ways to accept a gift and gently tell your husband what you do and don't like. As someone who has a good relationship and was just looking for something to make it even better, the positive reviews for this book sicken me. By the end of this book you may have an intimate relationship with your husband, but you won't have an honest one and don't be surprised if your husband also looks at you as a totally helpless female with no brain in your head to carry on a decent conversation with at the end of the day!!! Similar Products
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