Uncoupling : Turning Points in Intimate Relationships
Author: Diane Vaughan
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ISBN: 0679730028
Publisher: Vintage (05 September, 1990)
Sales Rank: 17,058
Average Customer Rating: 4.21 out of 5
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Rating: 4 out of 5
Sociology, not self-help
This book is a sociological study--it discusses processes and patterns that typically occur as relationships fall apart.As such, it does not provide solutions, fingers to put in the dike, compresses to stop the bleeding--in fact, it makes clear that most such measures are, finally, ineffectual.
At the same time, every relationship is singular--statistics portray the behavior of groups, without necessarily predicting individual outcomes.
If you are looking for a book that forces you to consider the individual and personal perspective in a damaged relationship, I strongly recommend "Should you leave?" by Peter Kramer.
Nonetheless, it is both enlightening and depressing to recognize "Damn, we've done that" as you read this book.
One final note: Ms. Vaughan's writing style is academic and often less than felicitous. The comparison between the liveliness and complexity of life shown in the quotations and her own dry, sometimes reductive commentary frequently annoyed me.
Rating: 5 out of 5
I could see mirrored what I went through!
Eccellent Book! It is not a self-help book and NOT pessimistic at all!
It showed me clearly the process I went through when I finally left my husband!
Contrary to the negative reviews this book received from some readers who I believe missed the point. The book portrays the dynamics that unfold when a relationship disintegrates!
I recommend it to those people who want to know what goes on within people who decide to terminate a relationship and understand them.
Great book for those people who want a sociological point of view! MOSTLY RECOMMENDED!
Rating: 5 out of 5
excellent book to help understand process of "uncoupling"
I have read this book several times since it was first published in the early 90's and found it to be very informative and helpful in understanding what was going on during my process of uncoupling (divorcing)at that time. Ms. Vaughan has done an excellent job of presenting her material in a very readable and interesting fashion. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I highly recommend this book for human service professionals and the layman alike. Similar Products
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