Understanding the Tin Man : Why So Many Men Avoid Intimacy
Author: William July II
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ISBN: 0767905660
Publisher: Broadway (13 February, 2001)
Sales Rank: 303,791
Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5
Customer Reviews
Rating: 3 out of 5
Pretty General
Tin Man attempts to explain why men have problems with intimacy and commitment. I think a more appropriate title should have been Tin People since a number of the chapters are written specifically to identify character traits of Tin Women. With that said, I have to be completely honest in that I didn't find anything revealing or new in this offering to explain why men behave the way they do. July points to many obvious social stereotypes to identify the antecedents of Tin behavior; for instance, young skilled athletes on the playground rally their popularity into Tin Man psychosis as an adult, as well as numbers of female sexual partners equals Tin Man achievement. On a more humorous side (or at least I thought so), July explains the many ways Tin Men breakup relationships (e.g., "It's not you baby, it's me", or "I don't know where I'm going with my life now".) I found it funny in the fact that both men and women use the same excuses and not exclusive to just men. Moreover, we've all heard them before so why do we have to be reminded? In short, it was very general.I thought this book was a good draft. I say this in the sense that July failed to touch upon the deeper meaning behind the reasons men feel the fear of commitment. I believe there should have been more research and interviews; more first hand accounts from a broad spectrum of economic and social backgrounds.
Rating: 3 out of 5
Not bad, but not amazing either.
I purchased this book based on the reviews seen here at Amazon.com. Though I think July has some interesting stuff to say, I don't think any of it was new or particularly revealing with respect to men and their search for intimacy. Moreover, I'm skeptical about anyone quoting Dr. Laura Schlessinger; the most unqualified person to dispense personal guidance with her "I know what is morally correct for the world" doctrine. (For further information on Dr. Laura, run a search using your favorite search engine for "Dr. Laura facts". I'm sure you'll find plenty of interesting reading.) But back to Tin Man, I think July set out to outline the patterns of behavior and their antecedents to help women, and even men, understand why the other half behaves the way they do. Am I a Tin Man? Yes, to a certain degree I would have to say so. Yet at the same time I must argue that given the broad scope by which July defines a Tin Man, all men, including women, are Tin People. It would have been more appropriate for July to title the book "Tin People" since he offers workshop questions for both men and women, not to mention chapters geared specifically for men and women as well. Why didn't he do this? Well, the obvious reason is that July has found a nitch catering to a female audience; a sort of Phil Donahue (but more masculine in appearance) for 2000 to help women understand their ruff and tumble men. The bottom line: Is this book worth purchasing? Yes, but I would qualify this by suggesting a used copy first. New? Hmmmm...I'd have to think about that.
Rating: 5 out of 5
Great for Tin men and the women who love them.
I got this book at a time that I was separated from my boyfriend. This book helped me understand why some men behave the way they do and why it is so hard for them to come to grips with themselves sometimes. Every woman and man should have a copy of this book,it is great! . Similar Products
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