What Should I Do with My Life?

Author: Po Bronson
List Price: $24.95
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ISBN: 0375507493
Publisher: Random House (24 December, 2002)
Sales Rank: 3,877
Average Customer Rating: 3.11 out of 5

Customer Reviews

Rating: 4 out of 5
Flawed but important
Questioning his own life, author Po Bronson set out to learn how others made tough career decisions -- and lived with them.
He says he talked to nine hundred people, seventy or so in detail, and he includes the stories of fifty or so career-changers in his book.

Bronson does not offer a systematic study or a self-help book. That's important to get out of the way. As other reviewers have observed, you won't find plans or guidance for your own career move.

Instead, Bronson offers a jumble of anecdotes, unsystematic and uneven -- just the sort of stories I hear every day as a career coach. People seek new adventures. They weigh the cost (and there always is a cost). Sometimes they decide the cost is too high and they back down. Sometimes they leap and experience disappointment. And sometimes they leap and find themselves soaring.

Career-changers are hungry for guidance. Bronson's interviewees often sought his approval -- and his advice. He insists that he's not a career counselor but they asked anyway. This quest for help is typical during any life transition and underscores the need to be cautious about seeking help from whoever happens to show up.

And of course this overlap of roles can be viewed as a flaw in the book. Bronson admits lapsing from the journalist role. He gets so involved with his interviewees that the story becomes a quest, a journey-across-the-country story rather than an analysis of career choices. Bronson includes his own story, told in pieces throughout the book. This feature seemed to interrupt the flow: if the author tells his own story, we should be led to anticipate autobiography.

Despite these flaws, Bronson comes up with some sound insights into career change. He observes that people avoid change because of the accompanying loss of identity. They hang back "because they don't want to be the kind of person who abandons friends and takes up with a new crowd," precisely what you have to do following a life transition.

And he follows up with a warning of solitude that also accompanies any life change. "Get used to being alone," he advises, yet many people fear being alone more than they fear being stuck in a job they hate.

WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH MY LIFE offers questions, not answers. It's like attending a giant networking event. You have to sort through the stories on your own.

Despite these flaws, I will recommend this book to my clients and to other career coaches. Career change, like any change, is messy. You rarely get to move in a straight line and you always experience pain and loss. And every move is a roll of the dice: a coach can help, but there are no guarantees.

Each story in this book is unique and your own will be too. You, the career changer, must put together your own mosaic and find pattern and meaning on your own.


Rating: 4 out of 5
Fascinating...but be CAREFUL (it may not be what you want)
A ton has been written and spoken about this book. But some things can be honestly said:
1)It focuses on people who try to answer the question What Should I Do With My Life. A great "high-concept" title for a book.
2)It is no way, by no stretch of the imagination, a self-help book that's going to help you ponder this question, take a survey and reach a conclusion. It's highly stylized in its writing and organization.
3)The book is as much about the author -- injected in the book throughout, as a character -- writing the book and meeting the people he interviews as much as the subject and the people he interviews.
4)It's very much a first person narrative book. Some chapters leave you unsatisfied. Some leave you satisfied. Some chapters seem like expanded diary entries.
Bottom line: Don't buy this expecting this is going to greatly help you arrive at the answer to this question, or read comprehensive pieces about people who struggled with this question and arrived at the answer (which would help you arrive at the answer).
Buy it if you want to read about some people who have dealt with this issue and about an author who writes about his writing project writing about people who struggle with this answer.
It has the title of a typical self-help book...but it isn't. Which will be welcome news to some readers and a big letdown to others. Dale Carnigie, it ain't...


Rating: 5 out of 5
Rated for what lessons I have learned
I was very surprised to see some of the poor reviews given to this book. Up to this point, I was neither familiar with the author nor have read a summary article in Fast Company. I enjoyed the book not for its writing style but rather, for the lessons it attemps to present.

This isn't a book about answers - that was stated early on. Nor are the people profiled bred of stinkin'-rich parents. I'm certainly not one of those, though I am a Gen-X'er. I came nowhere close to any dotcom victories/traumas. Yet I still see glimpses of my demons and desires in the stories of others.

There are people who invested a lot of time and effort into becoming what they thought they're meant to become, and only when they actually become it do they realize it was not what they truly wanted. Nothing brings you down to the real world like living up to what you've signed up for.

I also identified with the story of the young Asian man who went to an Ivy League school (yes, his parents paid for it, but they earned the money through hard labor) and ended up as a teacher working for minimum wage. This case spoke to the stereotype of Asian parents, who respect education for the opportunities it provides but would have a fit should their children become educators (even worse, high school teachers).

So, please don't buy the book in hope for excellent writing styles, or for collectives of people who will not elicit your envious eye (you will read about twenty-somethings who pulled off millions from the dotcom fervor - and even then - they're STILL looking for purpose and meaning). This book isn't meant to make you feel like the magic formula is coming around the next chapter. People go from rags-to-riches and back to rags.

It's personal sacrifice, confusion, and perpetual struggle against what tempts you (title, money, sense of security) versus what may fulfill you - when you may not even know what that fulfillment may look like if it came and slapped you on the face.

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