Dr. Christian's analysis of the reasons why people don't fulfil their potential and his practical suggestions for
re-orientation are excellent. He's absolutely right when he speaks of the pitfalls that can still occur even after you meet with success. He tells Stacy's story: how she would always derail herself. But then she applied his exercises and got herself on track, cultivating her deepest interests. This led to her making a documentary film. Along the way, she was filled with exhilaration but also with fear. What if she failed? But she didn't bail out; she kept working hard and along the way got offers of help. For the first time in her life, she was taken seriously as an artist.
This book shows that change is truly possible and tells you how you can bring it about if you follow the specifics. It's inspiring: you learn that it's never too late to break old, negative habits and consciously form fresh, productive ones. He offers a concrete guide that anyone can apply: sensible, unique, in-depth exercises for jump-starting your career.
I think this book is useful for everyone. Whether you're just starting out or have hit a roadblock, this book makes you ponder your unique answers to essential questions: "What do I really respond to? What gives me joy and passion?" I recommend this book to anyone who has a dream but whose self-defeating habits have interfered with making it come true.
Susan Froemke
Chief Administrator and Principal Filmmaker
Maysles Film Inc.
Crazy thing is I never really knew I needed it. I certainly never looked for it. Unlike those ever-anticipating overachievers who, once they identify the possibility...or inkling, of a need for information on this or that, proceed to call the ten closest bookstores to try to attach a name and author to some ambiguous dilemma, I, on the other hand, opened the book because I was intrigued by the cover.
One quiet Friday night as I sat in a way-too-comfortable chair at Barnes and Noble (yes, that's where I was), having myself a pity party over some domestic drama, I stumbled upon the book that changed my life. I twisted over the side of my chair to the nearest bookshelf and pulled the interesting-looking book from amid its fellow shiny-covered books. The cover was made to resemble a ransom note. You know the kind: letters cut or torn from various newspapers and magazines and glued to a white sheet of paper in order to mask the identity of the sender. It intrigued me and I began to read it. Three hours later, when the announcement came over the intercom that the store would be closing in 15 minutes, I looked up from the book. I had become so engrossed in the book as to have completely forgotten where I was. My first realization was that I was sitting rather indelicately with one leg flopped over the arm of the chair. My second realization was that I had stumbled upon something that I identified with so closely it gave me a feeling of divine intervention.
In "Your Own Worst Enemy" by Dr. Kenneth W. Christian, Dr. Christian tells of lost souls, misspent lives, manic geniuses - all unable to regain the promise and momentum of their youth: persons paralyzingly unable to motivate themselves into completing, essentially, their lives. With key pieces of the learning process missing, they were unable to break through - to see the finish line - to stay the course: to finish what they started. I felt sad for them, or should I say, I felt sad "for us". Shortly thereafter, I committed myself to change.
After long months of reading, meditating, praying and writing, I have identified and returned to what I have always loved and wanted to do. I want to work directly with people as a paralegal. I want to be their advocate, to listen and to help. I don't want to be so bound by time constraints, that I cannot help in a meaningful way. I want to give of my time and talents, and of them, generously. Completing my goals will allow me the privilege of being of service to God, doing the kind of work that I would enjoy most. A most gratifying goal that I now, more than at any other time in my life, see myself completing--all because of a book that changed my life.